Thursday, March 26, 2009

Day 7

....On my 30 day clutter reducing challenge.

Here's my thought for the day:

He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.

(Raymond Hull)

Part of my de-cluttering, body detoxing etc is also linked to how I manage my time and relationships. Let's face it I can't do it all, have it all or be all things to all people. Right? I aim to please but have come to realize that I simply cannot, nor should I, aim to please everyone at all times. Talk about energy draining.

So in my focusing I'm adding what I do with my time and how I enjoy my friendships etc. Not always an easy task. Saying NO has never been my strong suit. I am learning.

Today I am going through my planner and trimming what I really cannot logically do or manage.

How about you? Are there areas in your life where learning to say no would be a blessing? If you've been able to do this in your life, please share how you arrived at that point. I'm still learning.

Sending warm sunshine and love,


  1. Hi Doll!
    Saying "no" was something I had to learn how to do as well. But I first had to learn that I had a right to say no. Sometimes people ask us to do things that they know they can count on us for. We might be the one they are really counting on to get it done, get it done right, or whatever. So I have had to learn to judge what is in my best interest, determine the amount of mass involved in saying no, and to be very discriminating in what I say yes to.
    Sometimes we just throw ourselves into things that look exciting to be a part of. Many times we ride a wave of enthusiasm that later leaves us wondering, "what was I thinking?!!"
    So in deciding what to say no to, you have to look at what really serves you. What are the things that matter the most to you? A personal mission statement can be very helpful.
    Then you have to determine how you are going to say no. If there is a deadline quickly approaching, saying no at the last minute can have some big repurcussions. Sometimes all we have to do is get the appropriate person on the phone and tell them, "You know what? I was really insane when I took this on. I am in way over my head and really need to ask you to release me from this obligation." You may need to apologize to some people as you bow out, but always try to make it graceful and ask for other's understanding.
    Good luck with this. This is a big one for all of us!

  2. Thanks so much Karen! You are so right. Learning the best way to say no is just as important. Being graceful and understanding is very important to me as well.